Last week a friend of mine posted this (without the changes of course). It originally read, “We’re all different sizes, we’re all different shapes and we all look amazing.” And while it may sound inspirational to some folks, it kind of felt like a big let down at the end. Why? It was still about appearance. It was still about validation through the way we look. And when we stay at this surface level and keep the focus on appearance we’re still stuck in the same old narrative. The same old narrative that has kept many women (and men) stuck by focusing on finding their worth and value through appearance.
Let’s be real here…
We aren’t going to look amazing all the time regardless if we fit into cultural confines of beauty or not. That’s just not reality.
This is why I changed this meme.
We are all different when it comes to body sizes and shapes. Focusing on looking amazing is placing our self worth outside of ourselves rather than deriving it from the depths of our being. We cannot rely on looking “amazing” to find confidence, but we do need to feel important, to feel heard, to feel a sense of belonging because this is how we thrive as humans. Looking amazing is great and thinking we look amazing is nice, but at the end of the day it’s not what will truly fill up our self-worth cup.
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"I'm a real person, and I'm angry. I'm trying to use this celebrity thing to get people some help. AIDS, poverty, racism - I want to be one of the hands that helps stop all that. I'll put it on my shoulders. I'll charge it to my account." ~ Jamie Foxx
Now listen guys, this is my most favo(u)red part of Mr Bishop's story. *
As we all know, in 2012, he starred in the title role of the Quentin Tarantino written and directed Django Unchained alongside his Ray co-star Kerry Washington, as well as Christoph Waltz, Leonardo DiCaprio and Samuel L. Jackson. In an interview about the movie, he told #Vibemagazine: "As a black person it's always racial." When he got home his other homies would ask how his day was? His response would then be: "Well, I only had to be white for at least eight hours today." Or: "I only had to be white for four hours."
The filming Django had been emotional as he said, "It's tough shooting when you're in plantation row and that's where your ancestors were persecuted and killed." *
I felt that. How could it not be tough?
Mr Bishop has two daughters known as Corinne (24) and Annalise (9). Corinne made her formal debut at the Bal des débutantes in November 2014 and was named Miss Golden Globe 2016 on November 18, 2015.
Is there anything Jamie Foxx can't do?
On January 18, 2016, he rescued a young man from a burning vehicle that crashed outside his home. The driver, Brett Kyle, was driving his truck "at a high rate of speed" when the truck left the road, traveled into a drainage ditch, and rolled over multiple times. I remember the time, i saw the news when he said, it was the right thing to do. 👏🏽💪🏽🙌🏾
He has a younger sister, DeOndra Dixon. DeOndra was born with Down’s- Syndrome, the genetic disorder and supports her in everything as far as my source's are correct. Bow down to you King, for all the good you do for the black community. #HBD 🤴🏾
I’ve been struggling a lot recently with my #mentalhealth maybe it’s the time of year, dark mornings and dark nights by 5pm combined with work stress, I’m not sure? I’ve been reflecting on things and I’m trying to plan in positive changes over the coming few weeks / months. I got distracted and I started scrolling through my photos & realised that before a night out the other week, I took two pictures, but only shared the one on the left. Why? I asked myself? The one on the right to me looks dark, and shows vulnerability; whereas the picture I shared got likes and lovely comments and made me feel good about myself. It got me thinking about what we chose to share, and our intentions, especially when we’re feeling a bit broken. If you feel like you’re struggling, please know you’re not alone. #itsokaynottobeokay#depression#anxiety#selfesteem#selfcare#asktwice#postnataldepression#postnataldepression
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Today’s ‘random Jamie musing’ is brought to you by-
& why i’ve been intentionally practicing it for over 2 years & WHY it’s SO. DARN. difficult for me.
I think that this is something that we can all identify with-
Having a hard time putting them in place
and/or having a hard time with resentment when boundaries HAVE been crossed (put weren’t set up initially)
In order for people to adhere or (the word I like perfer is- RESPECT) your boundaries-
You MUST be present them CLEARLY as well as KINDLY- (I have found that the more ‘kind’ I am, the more that person receives the message) which I have taken to be MY FULL RESPONSIBILITY NOW.
Let’s take the random example of me AGREEING to be a part of the bake sale and telling the organizer that I will happily make 15 dozen cookies to bring to the upcoming event. (EVEN though this example is MADE up, I can already tell you that I would be POUNDING that dough with a freakin’ hammer and bare fists b/c the LAST thing I want to be doing on a sunday evening is making 150+ cookies for snot nosed kids who are probably going to take one bite and throw them away. (<----did you see that resentment sneak in right there?)
But let’s back track-
WHY did resentment come over me?
Was it because I didn’t SET a boundary initially?- (ie. say “NO, thank you- I do not want to participate in the bake sale next week.”)
Or was it because Mrs. Jones from the PTA is out to get me?
And the answer is- BOTH- nah, I’m kidding.
But- when we set CLEAR boundaries to start with, we will--> in turn experience less resentment towards the ones we love.
Ie. “It’s OKAY to be ANGRY, but It’s NOT okay to hit and slap other people.” (boundary setting is extremely important for raising these little ones too)
“I would love to engage with you on topics that are dear to you, but I will not tolerate you when you talk about ‘so and so’ ←- This sounds SUPER cheesy, but remember, I’ve only really been practicing ‘boundary setting’ for the last 2 years, so I have a lot to learn, and have a lot of phrase work to do, but I have found that when I am able to set boundaries in my relationships, they end up being more fulfilling. Thoughts?
Another session at the gym, man I love it. For many reasons.
1. Self improvement: get stronger, leaner and bigger
2. Improved self esteem and confidence
3. Me time. Important to find a place to give back to you
4. Stronger bones
6. Personal achievement
7. Meet amazing people
What reasons do train for?
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Todo es posible cuando crees en ti misma. 💪🏾
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Spread love around like sprinkles! When we spread love we release the love of God to those around us. How rewarding is that feeling? To open up that door for love to enter? We don’t have to choose to spend our time wondering what “he or she said”, but we can choose to love people through the pain and in those times of hurt. Stand by the people you surround yourself with and move with the love of God. #amen#prayer#friendship • • • • “If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen?”
I John 4:20 NKJV
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Photography @chelseyluren | Muse @hildiexoxx
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We all base our worth on how others view us. If someone else finds me worthy of their love, I must be worth something, right? But if I don’t feel like I am receiving approval from anyone, if no one else is noticing my worth, then maybe I’m not worth anything.
How do we cope with this bad stuff, especially when it comes from someone who is supposed to be on your side? Here are some positive methods to help you feel better about yourself.
1. Stop with the negative self-talk.
2. Create some short-term and long-term goals.
3. Enjoy the "now". Stop focusing on the past and worrying about the future for awhile.
4. Walk away from people that suck the life out of you.
5. Write down a list of all of the positive things and people in your life.
6. Don't compare yourself to others.
7. Take care of yourself.
8. Watch or read something inspiring.
There are many other ways that you can help yourself feel happier and empowered. If you have something that works well for you, please share it in the comment section.
“it’s always darkest before the dawn” when you got me when I was sixteen, I can say twelve years on, at some points I use to think you would always win.
But that was before I knew all that I do now and had I known that before , I would’ve have got so deep into it. Got into all those rotten #relationships and fucked my own #selfesteem up. Regardless, I wouldn’t laugh as much because I know, my life is richer now. So with this, I laugh at things I once cried about because : I’m healed. #healthydepression
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#tbt to my late summer adventures, when I ran my very first 10k ish 👀 ever. I gotta be honest here, I stopped many times along the way 😂😂 and with my former asthma issues I've had in the past, it definitely put my breathing to a test.
But you know what, even though my body felt it several days after, it was definitely one of the most rewarding experiences of this past summer.
Whatever you think you cannot do, it's only because you haven't given yourself a reason strong enough to do it. Don't you agree?
Love yourself be confident in who you are, you are the only one who knows how much work you have put in building yourself up. Other people don't live your life; you can only live it for yourself. That means you can't be so controlled by others opinions and belief . P.s you are fabulous 💛
Poem - I Need You
I need you like a bald man needs a comb
I need you like squatters in my home
I need you like soap that doesn't lather
I need you like the pain of an absent father.
I need you like an actor with stage fright
I need you like trousers way too tight
I need you like a boat about to sink
I need you like eyes that cannot blink.
I need you like a heart without a beat
I need you like a vegetarian craves meat
I need you like a blocked manhole
I need you like a man without a soul.
I need you like a broken umbrella in the rain
I need you like bulging varicose veins
I need you like a bullet to the heart
I need you like Usain Bolt needs a false start.
I need you like diarrhoea and constipation
I need you like a refugee wants deportation
I need you like a slave in chains
I need you like a smashed window pane.
I need you like ill-fitted false teeth
I need you like a grave with a wreath
I need you like mouldy bread
I need you like I fancy your friend instead.
I need you like a slug loves salt
I need you like a bank robber stuck in the vault
I need you like a lost winning lottery ticket
I need you like the West Indies keep losing at cricket.
I need you like a beat up boxer in the ring
I need you like a swelling of a bee sting
I need you like a lead balloon
I need you not to come back anytime soon. @marciaatkinsonpoetry#ineedyou#ineedyounot#getoveryourself#selfesteem#selfesteempoetry#love#relationships#loveyourself#iammovingon#idontneedyou#poem#poetry#poets#lovepoems
Very lucrative, powerful industries work to convince women our value entirely depends on our appearance, and that *aging* is one of the worst things that can happen to our looks. For women, those changes aren’t “distinguished” or “silver foxy!” They are to be *immediately* stopped, reversed and hidden at any cost. Because you’re worth it. Barf.
✖️Ever wondered why women are targeted so relentlessly by the anti-aging industry, to the point that we are spending billions per year on youthful “solutions?” IT’S BECAUSE WOMEN OVER AGE 40 INFLUENCE MORE THAN 80% OF PURCHASING DECISIONS IN THE US. That is a HUGE target market! A whopping 62 percent of the female population in the US is over 40. A few facts to open your eyes:
✖️Men in all forms of media are featured well into their 70s while women tend to become invisible around age 40 (think about couples paired up in movies, news anchors, etc.).
✖️Men ages 40+ appear in media about 10x more frequently than women ages 40+.
✖️Researchers even have a name for this egregious level of under-representation: symbolic annihilation. Unfortunately, the effects of that annihilation on body image, feelings of self-worth and bank accounts aren't so "symbolic” — they are tangible and devastating for womankind.
✖️Media will continue to symbolically annihilate women who don't fit money-making ideals, but WE do not have to annihilate our own faces and bodies to fit those unreal standards.
✖️What we COULD annihilate is our allegiance to the idea that we have to look young forever, and that women who don't look that way aren't worth seeing and hearing. THAT annihilation will be much more empowering, less expensive and less painful. You with us?👊🏽
✖️[As per usual, if you want more on this topic, click the link in our bio for our online Body Image Resilience Course at courses.beautyredefined.org, our TEDx talk, and our blog!] #beautyredefined#morethanabody#seemorebemore
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Perfection does not exist and if it existed it would bore you to death.
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❤️❤️❤️ THE ALCHEMY OF LOVE
You come to us
from another world
From beyond the stars
and void of space.
Of unimaginable beauty,
Bringing with you
the essence of love
You transform all
who are touched by you.
troubles, and sorrows
dissolve in your presence,
to ruler and ruled
To peasant and king
You bewilder us
with your grace.
You are the master alchemist.
You light the fire of love
in earth and sky
in heart and soul
of every being.
Through your love
existence and nonexistence merge.
All opposites unite.
All that is profane
becomes sacred again. ✨ #Rumi ⭕️
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